Lift Others, Lift Yourself

Samantha Bauer(00:01.335)
Welcome back everybody to Sisters-in-Law of Attraction. I'm Sam. And we are so, so happy that you came back to us this time. Last time Christine, we talked about spirit guides and being open to the spirit world and all that good stuff. But you gotta feel good, right? Again, be in the lane of high vibration, high frequency.

Christine Goforth(00:06.023)
I'm Christine.

Christine Goforth(00:23.886)
Yep.

Christine Goforth(00:23.886)
Enjoy. Yep.

Samantha Bauer(00:29.359)
Yes, and so to be open to to let the light in and and and you know and reap the benefits quite frankly of Leaning into those spirit guides and so this episode we are going to dive into you know, the mental health benefits of serving others Yeah Yep, you know, I always told my kids, you know

Christine Goforth(00:33.848)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(00:49.453)
I love it. It's so important. It is so, so important.

Samantha Bauer(00:59.123)
Well, I've talked about Max before, super spiritual kid, like mommy, why am I here when he was like four years old? And yeah, and I've shared before on the podcast that I just said your job is to lift others. And so I mean, think your girls are a perfect example of that too, is you can't be sad.

Christine Goforth(01:05.262)
That's Howie.

Christine Goforth(01:15.278)
Mm-hmm.

Samantha Bauer(01:26.993)
when you're serving others and you're helping others. And I think that so much of depression or anxiety, you're so internally focused. And so it's easy. And again, we've all been there. But if you could just get outside of yourself and go and help. You don't have to go paint people's houses. mean, there's little things that you can do to help others, right?

Christine Goforth(01:29.59)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Christine Goforth(01:37.72)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(01:41.859)
Right.

Christine Goforth(01:52.469)
No. Well, and I think that, a lot of times the thing that stops people from helping is that we have this idea in our head that it has to be some big grand gesture, right? That it has to be, you know, going every weekend and helping at the, I don't, at the food bank or at the house, house for humanity or, is that what it's called?

Samantha Bauer(02:06.769)
Yep.

Samantha Bauer(02:14.355)
Food Bank.

Samantha Bauer(02:20.219)
Right. yeah. Yeah.

Christine Goforth(02:22.146)
I think that's what it's called. Is that? Okay. And it doesn't have to be that. It can be, it can be helping, which I love doing, the person behind you who's super elderly, but helping them put their groceries on the grocery belt. Like it doesn't have to be a big thing. All you have to do is have your eyes open and be aware of your surroundings and see where you can help. it?

Samantha Bauer(02:35.485)
Yes.

Samantha Bauer(02:40.647)
Yes. Yeah.

Christine Goforth(02:51.502)
Cliche, hold the door open for someone. Okay, that's manners, right? But it's, but not everybody does it.

Samantha Bauer(02:58.553)
Exactly, exactly. Or, you know, just being in the grocery store and you've got, you know, a little lady there that can't reach, you know, so you go and you just reach it for her or whatever. but yeah, it's putting yourself out there and seeing, you know, in the little ways and, you know, in big ways too, you know, time, treasure and talent, right? What can you do? I mean, if you have a giving spirit,

Christine Goforth(03:07.18)
Yep. Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(03:17.294)
Yeah.

Christine Goforth(03:21.774)
Yep.

Samantha Bauer(03:26.695)
That energy will always come back to you. If you give, you you write a check to, well, for example, Thursday night we went to a fundraiser for blood cancer and this darling little boy, nine years old, God bless him, right? Been dealing with blood cancer since he was born. And, you know, he told, he got up there and told his story and just the energy in the room, so amazing. And everyone is just so generous and because this stuff matters. And again, it...

Christine Goforth(03:29.227)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(03:36.856)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(03:52.802)
Yeah.

Christine Goforth(03:52.802)
It does.

Samantha Bauer(03:56.06)
It doesn't, like you said, it does not have to be a gram gesture, but just doing something to help out. And does not have to be, again, a big check, which is a treasure. You've got talent and you've got time. Yeah. Yeah.

Christine Goforth(04:07.309)
Yeah, absolutely. I'll never forget I was coming out of Costco one time and I was packing my stuff up, getting in my car, getting ready to go. And I looked up and it looks like maybe a mom and or a woman with her elderly mom in a wheelchair. And they're trying to pack up the car and it looked like a lot. And so I got out and I approached them and I asked if they wanted some help and

Samantha Bauer(04:28.947)
Yep.

Christine Goforth(04:37.057)
They said, why do you want to do that? Why do you want to help us? And it was just like, why? Because it looks like, why do it? Because I can. And so they, and they let me and I did help them, but they just were so stunned as if nobody has ever reached out to assist with anything. And it kind of broke my heart.

Samantha Bauer(04:39.783)
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(04:50.555)
Yeah, you're right.

Samantha Bauer(04:50.555)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(04:57.757)
taking it back. Yep.

Samantha Bauer(05:04.059)
Right. Yeah. Yeah, no, no, for sure. And I think, you know, you do run the risk of, you know, offending. That goes through my mind too. You know, when I see somebody maybe struggling with a door or they are in a wheelchair and, you know, you want to help, but you also don't want to offend. yeah, so there's, you know, you obviously have to read the situation, but also...

Christine Goforth(05:06.423)
for them.

Christine Goforth(05:30.348)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(05:30.909)
just having that giving spirit and opening your eyes and paying attention to those around you. We are so, so internally focused and so into what we are doing that we just can't look up and look around and see, you know, what can I do? And just having that spirit of giving.

Christine Goforth(05:37.345)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(05:52.332)
Yeah. Well, and I think it's very easy to become hyper fixated on your own stuff, whether it's good or bad. Right. And, looking outside of ourselves, number one puts things into perspective. Right. And I think I've, I think I said it on one of our last podcasts, the thing that I'd heard about if everybody laid all their problems out on a table.

Samantha Bauer(06:00.573)
Sure.

Samantha Bauer(06:10.568)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(06:19.239)
Yes.

Christine Goforth(06:21.279)
You would take yours back in an instant, right? And so it's that perspective of, okay, I'm really nervous about X, Y, Z, or this is what's going wrong with me or in my life. But to look up and out and say, you know, I, I could go invite a neighbor over for dinner. Who's lonely. I could, you know, just the little things that

Samantha Bauer(06:23.62)
Exactly.

Samantha Bauer(06:43.729)
Right.

Christine Goforth(06:47.765)
You're not even thinking about what other people are going through and how your talents, whether it's like time, treasure, whatever, how you can help and give back and lift them up, right? I mean, that's what this is all about.

Samantha Bauer(06:51.483)
Exactly.

Samantha Bauer(06:56.402)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(07:00.52)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(07:00.52)
Yeah, and it could be something as simple as just a smile. Hey, I love your top. Love your sweater. Yeah, and just like we've talked about, it's about energy exchange. You just showing up with joy and gratitude and a service mindset. mean, that's where...

Christine Goforth(07:13.705)
Mm-hmm. You're glowing. Yeah.

Christine Goforth(07:23.031)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(07:33.586)
you can transform your own mental health. And you know, we all have it. mean, you know, it's not, you know, all unicorn, rainbows, you know, right? I mean, it's, we've got, it's life, we got a lot, but you know, fixating on your own problems and your own challenges, you know, it's not gonna get you anywhere. And reaching out to others is, know, and you know, we can get into kind of the science of it too.

Christine Goforth(07:37.825)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(07:42.973)
no. It's life.

Christine Goforth(07:56.352)
It's not.

Christine Goforth(08:02.423)
Well, I think that having, we talk a lot about in my family about like our tool belts, right? Like when we go through mental health stuff, or stuff that you haven't been through before, you kind of pick up different tools to use along the way that help. Right. And so I think giving back is just another tool in your tool belt when you're feeling down or when things aren't going right for you to look outward and say,

Samantha Bauer(08:19.719)
Right.

Christine Goforth(08:31.391)
Okay, how can I help? Because it does, to your point, release those feel good, happy chemicals in our brains. yeah.

Samantha Bauer(08:38.579)
Yeah, yes. Yeah, no, I think it actually was an article in Mental Health the last couple of years and it basically says, studies have shown that helping others can decrease cortisol, which is our stress hormone, right? And it increases oxytocin related to positive social interactions and generosity. so by...

Christine Goforth(08:52.321)
Yes. Yep. yeah.

Samantha Bauer(09:02.247)
you know, by default that obviously reduces your anxiety and it reduces your depression. And so it's, you know, it's kind of fun to see that feel good effect when you're doing something, you know, for somebody else and or something else, you know, or serving a larger good somewhere. I'm very grateful to be part of the law police.

Christine Goforth(09:13.665)
Mm-hmm.

Samantha Bauer(09:26.983)
Guild, which is a women's guild raising money for Valley Children's Hospital. And so every year we put on a derby party. so last year, or excuse me, yesterday, I felt like last year was a long day. So every year we put on a derby party. so there's, I love doing what we call our work days. It takes an entire week to set up this event. know, a thousand people show up to this event.

Christine Goforth(09:31.116)
Ahem.

Christine Goforth(09:36.532)
Yeah

Christine Goforth(09:48.927)
yeah.

Samantha Bauer(09:50.78)
And all the ladies wear their big derby hats and the men get all dressed up. And it's such a fun, fun event. But more than the event itself, it's those work days when I'm working side by side with my lawfully sisters. Yes, we're, yes, it's a huge bonding. And actually, I was talking to one of the newer members. She's brand new in the guild and she was feeling like, I don't know, I'm not making this huge connection. But she said,

Christine Goforth(10:01.536)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(10:01.536)
Blood, sweat and tears, bonding.

Samantha Bauer(10:19.643)
yesterday's workday, she was, get it. You know, we're all bonded, right? And so when you work and I, you know, I spent several hours, you know, folding napkins and each of the napkin had a different fold and you know, and so when you, you know, I walked into the event, I mean, I'm like, I did that, you know, I did that, right? And so,

Christine Goforth(10:32.33)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(10:37.3)
Yeah, I did that. did that. huh. We laughed when that one didn't work out and we had to redo it or whatever it is.

Samantha Bauer(10:44.883)
Totally, totally. So again, like you said before, it's building community when you're part of something, when you put yourself out there and you're part of something larger than yourself, because again, we are all connected and this, serving others and volunteering in your community, joining an organization, whatever you do, it really puts you in, it connects.

Samantha Bauer(10:44.883)
all of us and builds that community and gets and reminds you to stay in that lane of joy and gratitude. so anyhow, but I think when we were kind of talking about this subject, Christine, I just remember one of your daughters doing the affirmations at her elementary school. So talk a little bit about that because I just, it's kind of like a favorite little memory I have.

Christine Goforth(11:15.697)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(11:21.014)
Absolutely.

Christine Goforth(11:33.952)
Yes.

Christine Goforth(11:40.109)
Yeah, yes, so we don't necessarily do them every day anymore, but when the girls were younger in elementary school, we would either walk or drive and we would do affirmations in the car with them. And it's, you know, everything from, am helpful, I am beautiful from the inside all the way out, I am respectful, I will, whatever it is.

Christine Goforth(11:40.109)
So we would go through a whole bunch of them, not the same every day. And eventually my older daughter came to me, I think she was in probably fourth or fifth grade and said, hey, I really want to start doing affirmations in front of the whole school. They would all meet on the blacktop in the morning, do flag salute, whatever. I said, well, you should go talk to the principal and ask if that's something that...

Christine Goforth(11:40.109)
she would be interested in letting you do. And sure enough, she did. And so every Wednesday for the rest of the school year, she would stand up in front of the entire school and with a microphone, say her affirmations. She would write them out the night before. She would say it. The whole school would repeat it back. And it was just the coolest thing that I got so much feedback from, all different teachers, all parents, like,

Samantha Bauer(12:58.623)
yeah.

Christine Goforth(13:03.732)
Because you're starting your day with positive words for yourself. And I'm not, I'm not disillusioned that other kids don't, they don't get that. Not all kids are hearing those things and saying those things to themselves or encouraged to, to say positive things about themselves. so having her there doing that, I think made a really big difference.

Samantha Bauer(13:15.613)
Sure.

Samantha Bauer(13:15.613)
Nope.

Samantha Bauer(13:25.682)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(13:31.46)
absolutely, and what I love the most about it is she was seeing such a positive impact in her and she wanted to share it. She wanted to share that with others. And so again, serving her community and saying, look at the impact.

Christine Goforth(13:32.524)
It was just so cool.

Christine Goforth(13:41.514)
Yep, absolutely.

Christine Goforth(13:50.89)
Mm-hmm.

Samantha Bauer(13:50.952)
that this has had on my life and putting me in a good positive mindset. And now I can lead the school and my classmates in this practice. And yeah, I just absolutely love that.

Christine Goforth(14:00.31)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(14:04.042)
Yeah, no, do. I love that. It's like one of those things right where you're like, OK, I'm parenting. I'm doing this thing over and over and over again. I really hope it sticks someday. And then it's like, my God, you've been listening and it's working like it's impacting you. And now you want to go do that for other people. They both my girls also used to write anonymous notes and stick them in people's lunch pails in.

Samantha Bauer(14:15.68)
I'm crying.

Samantha Bauer(14:15.68)
Yeah. Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(14:24.38)
Yes.

Christine Goforth(14:33.056)
They would go to the office and say, can you put this in so-and-so's box? And just an anonymous, like, thanks for being my favorite teacher or whatever it is. it's just little things like that make people's day. And I know that because I've had bad days when other people have said like, my gosh, I love that color sweatshirt on you. And it's like, thank you. Like, that's so nice. Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(14:38.994)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(14:46.557)
Absolutely.

Samantha Bauer(14:55.111)
Right, right, and such a small thing. But again, when you're thinking like that, it means that you are in, again, I keep on saying it's a lane of joy and gratitude, and you are high-vibe, and you know, your frequency level is high. And when you're serving others, when you're doing affirmation, so it's not, and I love how Jules saw that

Christine Goforth(14:59.34)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(15:11.489)
Mm-hmm.

Samantha Bauer(15:25.341)
this could be, I could keep this secret in this vehicle with my mom and my sister and my dad, or I can go out and I can share it with others and bring the light and bring the joy. And so I think it's a perfect example of what you can do to serve others. And again, it's not about writing the big check. If you have resources, yeah, you probably should be.

Christine Goforth(15:29.182)
Mm-hmm. Right.

Christine Goforth(15:35.264)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(15:48.108)
Mm-hmm.

Samantha Bauer(15:54.534)
spreading the wealth a little bit and helping out, absolutely. But you don't have to, again, does not, like you said, does not have to be a grand gesture, just a smile, know, engage in conversation. I think the biggest thing, and I might have kind of hit on this before, that as I travel throughout the United States, I've really realized, and again, I'm not bashing California, but I just feel like,

Christine Goforth(15:56.288)
Right? Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(16:06.111)
Yeah.

Christine Goforth(16:22.016)
Mm.

Samantha Bauer(16:22.671)
We have laws. We're so, it's like, there's like an agenda. Like you're always figuring out, okay, everyone's got an angle. Everyone's got a bent. Like, okay, what are you about? Like, right? That's just, it's so divisive. And I say that based on my own experience spending a lot of time in Dallas, Texas with my son. Last fall we went to South Carolina and I got to tell you those people are God's people. I have never genuinely happy.

Christine Goforth(16:27.179)
Mm.

Christine Goforth(16:46.591)
Hahaha

Christine Goforth(16:51.807)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(16:52.541)
Kind people it almost like took my breath away and I always tell the story when we started going to the south and we were looking at colleges for my son and I remember being in an elevator and the woman looks over to me she goes how y'all doing and I remember looking at going like No, see like we're from California. Like we don't talk. I'm gonna talk in the elevator. Like that's not a thing

Christine Goforth(17:12.649)
We pretend that we don't, there's a wall here.

Samantha Bauer(17:16.083)
and we looked down on our phone. I mean, we avoid any whatever. And I just, in that moment, it was so funny because I was like, I became so aware of our behavior. And again, this is not right. And they just, and just shitty chat. Like, why would you not chat in an elevator? You're like standing there, like, why would you not? And it was just hilarious. And so we went to a, it was a Clemson football game and they were playing SMU.

Christine Goforth(17:20.575)
Hahaha!

Christine Goforth(17:26.993)
huh. So aware that you were old time friends with her.

Christine Goforth(17:26.993)
Yeah. Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(17:44.116)
Obviously our son goes to SMU and so my husband and I went with a friend because her daughter went to Clemson and we are all in our SMU blue walking through a sea of orange in the tailgate. So we kind of stuck out, but the people are like, hey, come on over, come have a beer, come sit. We're like, yeah, no, it's okay. They're like, no, no, no, no, come, Here's your chair.

Christine Goforth(18:06.635)
Like it's okay if you're in different colors, we're good. Like, yeah.

Samantha Bauer(18:10.301)
Come sit, like literally. so we walked by and then we ended up walking by again and the guy came up and literally handed Paul a beer and he goes, we really would like to get to know you. Can you please sit? And it was like we had known these people for, it was such a weird, and it was funny because they thought we were from Dallas. We're like actually from California. It's like a long story, but anyhow.

Christine Goforth(18:23.869)
that's.

Christine Goforth(18:32.371)
Shit!

Christine Goforth(18:32.371)
where they were like, no, seriously, like, can you please just sit?

Samantha Bauer(18:40.605)
Right? And I had this beautiful exchange with this elderly lady. It was really hot that day. And so she was, you know, in under the cover and there was a cooling station or whatever. And she was sitting there by herself. And I just had the warmest exchange with this woman. In that moment, it reminded me that again, when we say we're all connected, we are.

Christine Goforth(19:07.819)
We are we're all people we're all living on the same floating rock, right like

Samantha Bauer(19:13.937)
Yep. Yeah, yeah. And so when, and again, it's easy in our society. I'm, you know, I do it too. get tangled and focused on my own stuff and my own challenges. But when you can serve others, you make that shift in your mind and in your body.

Christine Goforth(19:29.312)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(19:37.535)
Yep. Yes.

Samantha Bauer(19:39.565)
and you get outside of yourself. Just get outside of yourself and remind yourself of that authentic connection that we have with one another.

Christine Goforth(19:50.675)
Absolutely, couldn't have put it better myself. Truly, truly, truly.

Samantha Bauer(19:53.466)
Yeah, yeah, so so to our listeners, you know, challenge yourself this week. What what can you do? You know, I mean, it's everything from volunteering, you know, at the at the food bank or like Christine said, inviting your neighbor over or just going and chatting with your neighbor, you know, the neighbor that, you know, is maybe a little bit older and doesn't get out as much.

Christine Goforth(20:16.306)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(20:20.522)
I was gonna say, my mom has an anonymous neighbor who brings her trash cans in every single week. And it's like, okay, not only is that so, it's so kind and so thoughtful. And then I bring her home and it's like, I am so happy that you have people around you that are looking out for you when we aren't down the street, right? And...

Samantha Bauer(20:28.721)
Love it. Yep.

Samantha Bauer(20:44.989)
Right. Exactly.

Christine Goforth(20:49.43)
There have been a few things like that where it's like, okay, I'm really glad that this person now has other people who have their back and are looking out for them. It's really beautiful. feel, the elderly women in my life, they're not good listeners. They're a little stubborn, but luckily they have people, anonymous people looking out for them.

Samantha Bauer(21:01.192)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(21:12.613)
Yes. Yes, I love, I absolutely love that. yeah, so just do, it doesn't have to be big, but challenge yourself this week and serving at somebody else. And you know, it could be far and wide. Yep. Yeah. So even if you don't have any time or you're not going to write a check this week, that's totally fine. When you're in the line at the grocery store, turn around and smile to the person behind you.

Christine Goforth(21:27.014)
It goes far and wide. Even the small, it's the ripples, the ripple effect. Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(21:42.239)
and engage and you know because again our job is to lift others and so that's why I'm so so grateful Christine that we have Sisters-in-Law of Attraction because you know we're building a community of folks that you know we we can make an impact in our community in the world around us by just leaning into this into this life of service.

Christine Goforth(21:54.492)
Me too.

Christine Goforth(21:59.69)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(22:04.308)
talking about it, encouraging it. I love, I could talk all about this for forever.

Samantha Bauer(22:10.191)
Yes, yes. Well, unfortunately, our time is up. And so we're so, so happy you joined us this time on Sisters in Law of Attraction. I'm Sam. And we look forward to next time. Bye.

Christine Goforth(22:18.171)
And I'm Christine.

Christine Goforth(22:23.659)
Bye!