Being Intentional

Samantha Bauer(00:01.157)
Well, here we are again. Welcome back to the Sisters-in-Law of Attraction podcast. I'm Sam. And we're so thrilled you're back with us. Christine, you and I had a chat recently talking about your busy, busy life. And today, we want to talk a little bit about being intentional with how we spend our time and who we spend it with.

Christine Goforth(00:06.806)
And I'm Christine.

Christine Goforth(00:17.549)
Yes.

Christine Goforth(00:25.848)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(00:26.001)
And in that conversation, you were talking about, you I mean, you're in the throes of it. You've got two teenage young women daughters that you're raising. I have already launched my little birdies. our job is never truly, truly done. But you're definitely in the throes of it as you're running around and going to volleyball practice and picking up from school and theater and, and, and, and. So.

Christine Goforth(00:30.86)
Yeah.

Christine Goforth(00:35.756)
Yep.

Christine Goforth(00:50.446)
and all the things, yes.

Samantha Bauer(00:55.599)
So you were sharing that the girls are just like, my gosh, mom, we miss our cuddle time. We miss our whatever.

Christine Goforth(01:01.142)
Yes. Yeah. Yeah. No, it's, is definitely an interesting phase that we have entered. And, you know, I think that the consensus is teenagers are scary and my gosh, you have two teenage girls. That's terrifying. watch out for those teenage years. Yes. Right. And you know, until they became, well, one will be a teenager in November. The other one already is, but

Samantha Bauer(01:16.305)
Yeah, yeah, how are you surviving?

Christine Goforth(01:31.215)
Once we've entered this phase, was just like, So far, so good. What's so scary about this? I still enjoy them. One's almost 15, and I still enjoy her. So where does this scary come from? And what I was not really prepared for was, and maybe I should have, knowing that I felt this way growing up also,

Samantha Bauer(01:39.791)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(01:43.449)
Yeah. Right. Right.

Christine Goforth(02:00.045)
And I think it's a common feeling for a lot of young girls, probably young men too, but, where you're in this phase, whether it's junior high or high school where you're wanting to grow up and be with your friends and hang out and try new things and do new experiences. And then it's like you.

Samantha Bauer(02:23.984)
Right.

Christine Goforth(02:29.102)
you also miss home and you miss spending time with your parents and you miss spending time, you know, playing game, the nostalgia, the stuff that you used to do as a family. And it's, I distinctly remember as, you know, 11, 12, 13, 14, where it was like this pull in two directions of am I growing up or am I like, but I still feel like a kid and I still want my mom sometimes and I still

Samantha Bauer(02:40.514)
Exactly.

Samantha Bauer(02:51.152)
Yes.

Christine Goforth(02:58.254)
get homesick and but also I want to go to the mall with my friends. I want to go to the movies. I want to spend the night. And, and this is what I think we're kind of experiencing with our girls right now where there's so much homework. There is so many, uh, there are so many different activities after school and demands on their time where it's like,

Samantha Bauer(02:58.331)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(03:20.625)
demands on their time.

Samantha Bauer(03:26.287)
Okay, you guys, am so sorry. Charlie is pissing me off.

Christine Goforth(03:27.639)
Yeah, no, you're okay.

Christine Goforth(03:34.296)
He's just a baby.

Samantha Bauer(03:35.761)
I'm gonna just, I'm gonna pick him up and then my lighting got weird because I went out of screen. So I don't know, Greg, if that's a problem. Yeah, so I don't really know how to fix that. Hold on, let me get him.

Christine Goforth(03:39.608)
You're good.

Christine Goforth(03:54.036)
I Auntie loves you.

Samantha Bauer(04:01.425)
Okay, my lighting is fixed. I'm gonna beat this dog. my God. I'm literally over here. I'm like throwing my slipper at him. I'm just...

Christine Goforth(04:06.242)
YAH!

Christine Goforth(04:18.23)
You can't admit that on a recording, Sam.

Samantha Bauer(04:21.189)
God.

Samantha Bauer(04:21.189)
Okay, okay, so Christine, so sorry. So just if you can pick up with where you were at.

Christine Goforth(04:28.53)
no, you're okay. Which was... Do you know, Greg?

Samantha Bauer(04:37.689)
So many demands on their time.

Christine Goforth(04:38.066)
It was so many demands on their time is where I'll start. Is that good, Greg? Okay. they have just so many demands on their time now that they are in high school and junior high. And it's one particular experience that has happened more than a couple of times where my older one who, will come home, do her homework, but

Christine Goforth(04:38.066)
she's also very distractable and, that's okay. Right? Like you do your homework, you get it done, right? Like you get your stuff done. but it's, it's, she'll get home, she'll do, you know, do a snack, do her homework, take her shower, do dinner. Like very, you know, there's a time management piece to it there too, I guess. But it's like come nine o'clock and I'm like in bed and

Samantha Bauer(05:09.893)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(05:36.654)
Yeah, yay.

Christine Goforth(05:36.907)
half asleep and she's like, but I've hardly seen you. We haven't snuggled. We haven't, you know, and it's like, I know. And that's really hard. And several times this has happened and it really is the difference between me getting older and wanting to go to bed early and them getting older, having more demand demands on their time. So they don't have

Samantha Bauer(05:41.946)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(05:56.377)
Right.

Christine Goforth(06:03.244)
that extra time to spend with the family where we would play games after school or bake together or whatever it is. And so we've had these talks with her and my other daughter as well who gets in the same way where it's like, man, we haven't done X, Y, Z in so long that we used to do every day. And so I said, listen, as you get older, we're not magically going to have more time.

Samantha Bauer(06:06.352)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(06:09.945)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(06:24.582)
Yeah.

Christine Goforth(06:31.682)
We are going to have less and less time. We are going to get more and more busy and the distractions will always be there. And this is the time when we need to be very, very intentional about how we're spending our time. And if you know, and making a plan, right? Like if you know that you have X, Y, Z to do, then, and we also want

Samantha Bauer(06:31.888)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(06:35.971)
and the distractions will mount.

Samantha Bauer(06:48.848)
Right.

Christine Goforth(06:58.21)
to make sure that we get some quality time, whether that's baking something together or making dinner or watching a favorite show or bumping the volleyball back and forth. We need to build that into our plan because it's not gonna just magic. The things that don't have to be done are gonna be the things that fall off the list. And so you have to be intentional with how and who you're spending your time with.

Samantha Bauer(07:10.849)
Exactly.

Samantha Bauer(07:18.031)
Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(07:27.343)
Yeah, and I love that you say it's about making a plan. Because when you talk about being intentional, it's, OK, this is what I want to do. Here are the things that I have to do, but these are the things that I want to do. So instead of being a victim of the demands of life and all the things that we have to do, because there's plenty of things that we have to do, just being intentional and going back to some of that morning ritual that I was talking about for me, you have an evening ritual.

Christine Goforth(07:38.478)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(07:47.085)
Right.

Christine Goforth(07:56.802)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(07:57.219)
been very intentional with your 5 PM bath, right? And it's becoming increasingly more difficult because you've got a cheerleader that has to be, know, right?

Christine Goforth(08:00.44)
Yeah.

Christine Goforth(08:00.44)
Like it is now a seven o'clock bath and that is very late.

Samantha Bauer(08:08.945)
Yeah, so again, you have to be flexible with the plan, but being intentional and you know, for me, it's making sure that I'm disciplined and getting up at a certain time. And so I can build in, you know, that that morning ritual of my gratitude journal and, you know, and grounding and all of that. Same thing with, you know, the walk, you know, my meditation walk, you know, and and there's plenty of times, you know, to walk around, you know, this

Christine Goforth(08:12.654)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(08:38.969)
this manmade lake that I live around, it's 2.3 miles. And so it's a commitment of 40 minutes. And so there's plenty of times where I don't have time.

Christine Goforth(08:45.774)
Hit it? Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(08:51.663)
quote unquote time for that. But in the morning, I make the plan. Right. And you and you figure it out. So so that's where you're teaching your girls. Yes, you're now experiencing the huge demands of life. And they're only going to get bigger and more intense, obviously, as as they grow and become come adults just like us. And and and I think, you know, when you and I were talking about this, too, it's

Samantha Bauer(08:51.663)
how you spend your time and who you spend it with is really important. So when we talk about energy.

Samantha Bauer(08:51.663)
And you've made this comment before, Christine, it's about when you interact with people, it's an exchange of energy, right? And so really, and I know that I've been very intentional of late in reaching out to people perhaps that I haven't talked to in a long while. And being intentional with, hey, would love to catch up. Can you meet for coffee? You want to come over for a glass of wine or whatever it is. And again, I am in a different space in my life where I have a

Samantha Bauer(08:51.663)
a little bit more flexibility. I remember the days that you're living right now, right? I mean, it's definitely survival mode and you go from one thing to the next. So you're not like...

Christine Goforth(10:01.294)
Yes.

Christine Goforth(10:07.64)
And I remember looking at that being like, my God, they're so busy. I never want to be like that. I didn't know it was inevitable.

Samantha Bauer(10:13.315)
Right? Yeah, yeah.

Samantha Bauer(10:13.315)
Yeah, yeah. Well, and it's it's yeah, it's definitely inevitable because your girls have made decisions to pursue passions, to pursue interests. And, you know, there's a lot of families that, you know, don't want that crazy. So they don't, you know, that's just a choice for them. You know, that the kids are not involved in a million things. My kids literally, I mean, I would have the water polo.

Christine Goforth(10:28.28)
So true.

Christine Goforth(10:36.318)
Sure.

Samantha Bauer(10:44.619)
know, backpack lined up next to the soccer cleats, to the karate gi. I mean, I remember my mom taking care of the kids when they were younger. She goes, what are you doing to these kids? This is ridiculous. I say, well, I'm keeping them out of trouble.

Christine Goforth(10:48.566)
Yeah. huh.

Christine Goforth(10:56.302)
I tap out at about two per kid. Keep them out of trouble, right?

Samantha Bauer(11:00.471)
I, if you know, and you, you, know, my darling son, Max, very well, Max needed to be busy. Max just need to keep moving. We just need to, you know, keep that kid out of trouble. And so anyhow,

Christine Goforth(11:06.766)
He did it.

Christine Goforth(11:14.168)
Job well done, job well done.

Samantha Bauer(11:15.435)
Well, thank you. Yes, yes. No, he's he's an incredible young man. And I'm I'm I'm so so grateful and blessed. But it you know, it didn't happen by total accident. So again, about that intent intentionality. But I started realizing just kind of being an observer of the interactions with with some people that I would spend time with. And then I would walk away and go.

Christine Goforth(11:26.312)
No.

Samantha Bauer(11:44.837)
Do I feel good about this or whatever? But really being intentional with, I remember hanging out with this one person and she would always just make me feel creative.

Samantha Bauer(11:44.837)
Like I always had creative thoughts when I was around her. then, then just again, reaching out to certain people and spending time. Jen Sincero in her book, You Are a Badass, she talks about, you know.

Samantha Bauer(11:44.837)
the interactions that we have with people are really just mirrors of ourselves. And so the things that irritate us, you know, in other people are really exactly right. But, know, she in addition to that, she says people you surround yourself with are excellent mirrors for who you are and how much or how little you love yourself. And so I really sat with that for a little bit and it does require

Christine Goforth(12:21.912)
Yep. Yes.

Christine Goforth(12:26.712)
about someone.

Christine Goforth(12:41.998)
Hmm.

Samantha Bauer(12:48.051)
intentionality and plan to your point. You've got to plan out who do you want to spend time with and then make it happen. Yeah.

Christine Goforth(12:59.694)
How do you wanna feel? How do you wanna feel after an interaction? And who helps create that in you, right? Do you want to feel like you've just wasted two hours or do you wanna feel supported and like you have been high-vibing? Yeah, yeah.

Samantha Bauer(13:04.418)
Exactly. Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(13:09.691)
Right.

Samantha Bauer(13:20.186)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(13:20.186)
Yeah, kind of like us, right? so then when we started doing the high vibe stuff and sharing all the resources and this new journey that you're on, a journey that I've been on, and again, there's no end to it. It's a practice. And I love it because I've been able to be intentional with you. And we've always had a great relationship. We've been in different seasons of our lives and spent more time here.

Samantha Bauer(13:20.186)
and less time there. But we would always hang out. And when we did, we always had a great relationship. And it goes back to when you were five and I was 15. So we have a little history here. But it's fun now because we get to share our lives in a different way.

Christine Goforth(13:55.8)
Mm-hmm.

Christine Goforth(14:06.605)
She said that.

Samantha Bauer(14:17.713)
because we both discovered this quote unquote new way of living that has really, yeah, yeah.

Christine Goforth(14:25.655)
saved my brain. That's for sure. Saved my sanity, saved my brain, and helped my family along the ride. Honestly.

Samantha Bauer(14:31.792)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(14:31.792)
Yeah. Well, well, and then and then, you know, for you being open to seeking out those resources and and and discovering, you know, the power of your own thoughts and discovering your own. I don't know. Let's just call it self-efficacy. Right. Like, I I can do this. I totally can do this. You know, it.

Christine Goforth(14:58.251)
I don't have all of the blocks that I created by myself, right?

Samantha Bauer(15:04.239)
Yes. Yeah. And you've been intentional with your time seeking out those resources, listening to podcasts, reading books, you know, the whole thing. And you've prioritized that, you know, in your life and being intentional with that time. Super easy, Christine, to go, I don't have time for that. I'm raising two, you know, two young women and we're super busy and I don't even know what I'm going to put on, you know, the table for dinner tonight. Like, you know,

Christine Goforth(15:33.581)
God, that is the worst.

Samantha Bauer(15:34.163)
That's the most important thing. Gosh, it was never important to me. I I did feed my children. But I got to tell you, I know there are plenty of moms out there that just get so much joy out of feeding their children. And I never did. I think there's something wrong with me.

Christine Goforth(15:52.886)
No, there is nothing wrong with you. Listen, when I have the time, I and I know that they're going to love what I'm cooking. When they eat it and they're like, oh, this is so good. I'm like, oh, what a beautiful moment. But I mean, it's like a handful of times. And now I'm like, I'm so happy that it's find your own tonight.

Samantha Bauer(16:04.613)
Right?

Samantha Bauer(16:04.613)
Yeah. That never happened for me, by the way. My kids hated my cooking. And I'm OK with that.

Samantha Bauer(16:19.662)
Yeah.

Christine Goforth(16:20.289)
Find your own, make your own. There's lots of ingredients. Get creative.

Samantha Bauer(16:24.211)
I love that. I know. I remember you sharing that. I was like, my god, that's brilliant. And actually, mean, no, the kids, both Maddie and Max, literally to this day, make fun of this. I don't even know what I made. It was like some fettuccine fake noodle, fake sauce stuff right before soccer. they're like, the grossest meal ever. And then we had to go run around the soccer field.

Christine Goforth(16:41.983)
no.

Samantha Bauer(16:52.401)
And then, right, and now they're young adults and my daughter's in a new relationship. And thank God her boyfriend cooks because she is just not anyhow. Let's just say I was not very intentional with my time in the kitchen.

Christine Goforth(17:01.389)
Thank you. Not it.

Christine Goforth(17:09.237)
You have a lot of really beautiful cookbooks though.

Samantha Bauer(17:12.653)
yes, I do. And I can set a beautiful table. I can set a beautiful table. So anyhow, yeah, no, think, again, this work is about intentionality. It's being intentional with your time so that you can lean into this.

Christine Goforth(17:13.997)
Yes, very, very beautiful.

Samantha Bauer(17:34.817)
And really and truly being intentional. Yeah, most of us know, you know, the negative Nancy's, the the whiners, the complainers. That's that's our default. We're not. Yeah.

Christine Goforth(17:46.389)
It's so easy, right? It's easy to commiserate. It's easy to get people on board. it's so hot. my feet. my, whatever it is.

Samantha Bauer(17:52.305)
right.

Samantha Bauer(17:56.823)
Yes, yeah, no, right. those people...

Samantha Bauer(17:56.823)
Just don't know. If they knew what we knew, if they just knew that if they could speak more positively or just tweak their thoughts a little bit, be intentional with how they're spending their time, who they're spending their time with, can make a completely change your energy level.

Christine Goforth(18:26.605)
and the vibration that you are on.

Christine Goforth(18:26.605)
had a thought and it just left.

Samantha Bauer(18:36.975)
Well, and like you said, the vibration is you can be all high vibey and then get into a conversation that completely brings you down. just, right, we've all had it, right? It just sucks the energy out of you. And you just like, dude, you just killed my vibe.

Christine Goforth(18:50.028)
Yes.

Christine Goforth(18:50.028)
yeah.

Christine Goforth(18:58.611)
Right. Like, buzzkill. Killing my vibe, yes.

Samantha Bauer(19:03.255)
So instead of focusing on that, it's focusing on who are the people in your life that bring you joy, inspire you, creates this high vibe, creative, like people who want to create with you. Kind like you, right? And when we get together, we just want to create.

Christine Goforth(19:24.555)
Right. Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(19:29.655)
stuff and talk about this. We'll create a podcast. Here we go. Yeah. So, so again, this work is about intention. It is about creating a plan and you, you can do it because you have to, but you have to prioritize how you spend your time and who, and who you spend your time with. And, and if you have nothing, but yeah.

Christine Goforth(19:30.381)
of this. Yes. Yes.

Christine Goforth(19:52.589)
That big P word is so important.

Samantha Bauer(19:57.275)
Well, if you have nothing but negative people in your life, then just listen to us. Or listen to a podcast that's going to uplift you, because you deserve it. You deserve that investment of time. So anyhow, well, speaking of time, go ahead.

Christine Goforth(20:02.263)
Yes, exactly.

Christine Goforth(20:07.391)
Yes.

Christine Goforth(20:13.323)
I know it's, yep. No, I just, I just go back to thinking.

Christine Goforth(20:13.323)
I am so glad that I just took the leap of faith because it truly is someone coming to you and saying, it can be different. It can be better. You can create a better life for yourself, but you have to do X, Y, and Z and you kind of have to do it all day every day. But I promise you it's going to work. Right. And then just believe, just believe us. Just believe. Yes.

Samantha Bauer(20:26.736)
Yeah.

Samantha Bauer(20:42.565)
Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Just believe. Just believe and trust. Believe and trust. Yeah. No, I love it. Well.

Christine Goforth(20:52.418)
Yes.

Samantha Bauer(20:55.171)
Again, that whole time thing, can, I swear, we just literally started this. so we have more to talk about. come back to us. We're so thrilled you're with us. And just be intentional with your time and who you spend your time with. It really, really impacts your ability to create the life that you're meant to lead. And we are so thrilled you're with us. And this is Sisters in Law of Attraction. I'm Sam.

Christine Goforth(21:01.217)
I

Samantha Bauer(21:25.075)
Thanks for joining us. See you next time.

Christine Goforth(21:25.471)
and I'm Christine.

Christine Goforth(21:25.471)
Thanks.